Are you as hard on yourself as I am when it comes to your failures?

Does failing at something make you feel shameful? Does it make you put yourself down? Do you think you’re not good enough?

I do reflect on the things that seem to go wrong in my life. And I’ve come to different conclusion about them.

I take a look at what has gone wrong and see what I can learn from it. Maybe I even want to try and do things better.

Because failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently!

In a society that places a high value on competition, everyone wants to succeed. It becomes difficult to discuss failure, which somehow translates into personal weakness, lack, or vulnerability. We’ve got to reframe this because it’s a part of your evolution.

And evolution never requires failure. They are just part of everyone’s life. What actually matters is your interpretation of what’s going on, and then your response based on this interpretation.

If it weren’t for your challenges, how would you ever know that there are things you still misunderstand?

If it weren’t for your failures, how would you ever know what you could do differently?

You wouldn’t.

Our normal reaction is to pull back, to run, hide, push the failures away, feel bad about ourselves, put ourselves down, be angry or sad, even ashamed.


I’m not glad about all that has happened to me, but I’m extremely grateful for all I’ve learned from things which have gone wrong.

Be compassionate with yourself.

Bless your failures.

Embrace them.

Give thanks.

Move on when you’ve learned the lesson.

And look back on your failures with gratitude!

Ruth Bleakley-Thiessen

Born in Belfast, Northern Ireland, Ruth now lives in the north of Germany. She studied Communications Design in Kiel and worked as a freelance designer, illustrator, and artist. She is also an accredited Journey Practitioner and compliments her work with workshops, programs, coaching and is the author of several books, including "Woman Rise and Shine - a guide for women who want to be themselves", "Flown the Coop - a simple guide to dealing with transformation when the kids leave home" and "Nuffin" - a children's book.