We all know that change is inevitable, but why not try to learn to embrace these persistent ups and downs and thrive on this roller coaster of transition.
What does change look like exactly? It looks, fits and feels differently on everyone. Some of us handle it with ease and for others, it is a huge challenge. It is suggested that we must “Go with the flow”. Truthfully, I have never been a “Go with the flow” type of person, but I am working on it.
My good friend Kim blogs about the idea of “Pivoting” and how often we are required to rethink a situation. I think this idea of pivoting is a perfect way to look at change and I define it as reframing the idea of change into an action. Pivoting puts us in motion, moving us toward this new transition or development. As Socrates suggested so long ago we should be actively looking for answers, putting our energy toward building on the new, instead of fighting the old.
The older I get, the more I seem to be pivoting. Mid-life brings changes, lots of them. Nothing is the same as it used to be. Some of us downsize to a smaller home, we deal with the decline of our parents’ health, and our kids grow up and move away. We reevaluate our jobs and at times our bodies start to become uncooperative. Pivot, pivot, pivot. Adjust, readjust.
I don’t know if you agree with this, but I do not plan to acquiesce to change lying down. I won’t be complacent or relaxed. No, I intend to take action. I plan to: push, pivot, prepare, prioritize, proceed, ponder, produce and I will persevere. Not perfectly, but I will persevere. Onward and upward as they say!
I have reached midlife; my children are grown and are building lives on their own. My nest is empty and now it is time to refocus on me. I want to learn, I want to achieve, I want to share, and I want to experience life in a new way. I want to find adventure. I know that my kids could not live with me for eternity, nor would I want them to. In a perfect world they would have great careers and families and they would live nearby. There is no such thing as perfect.
Our oldest child attended college in the Pacific Northwest, 1,000 miles from home and now lives there permanently. Our youngest child just graduated from college and is living a short plane ride away in San Francisco. Am I happy they are not living close by? No not at all, however I am trying to look at the positives of this scenario and practice what I preach.
Change is good thing, really it is. It means we are alive and moving forward. Age brings wisdom and we make more informed choices, we can be proactive. We shouldn’t want to be stagnant, set in our ways. Change means learning, growing and perhaps achieving something we never thought possible!
Why not look at midlife as a starting point, instead of the finish line? We will always be parents, but we can still be ourselves, keep the magic of life going and dream of something even bigger.
Change is inevitable. It is like the relentless locomotive arriving at the station; you can’t stop it from coming. We must board that train of change and see where it takes us. Want to join me?